BioGraffs is a unique method that helps couples create visual representations of their thoughts, feelings, and perspectives. First, it gives each person a chance to think through and organize what they want to say. The process of turning complex ideas into visuals, emotions and perspectives become easier to share and understand. The process encourages active listening and curiosity about each others perspective, fostering deeper connections and more productive conversations. And it's fun and playful, so defensiveness is reduced

Very different! "Where Should We Begin" is great and there are literally hundreds of similar things on the market. They are all basically the same: a deck of cards with conversation prompts. Those are fun and can spark great conversation, but they are nothing like BioGraffs. BioGraffs is completely unique. You know what you need to talk about, so you make up your own prompts BioGraff helps you "externalize" something that's been on your mind BioGraffs doesn't center talking as the primary means of responding to the prompt BioGraffs is visually creative to pull more meaning out of your response and thoughtfulness BioGraffs goes into depth on a particular topic of personal meaning to YOU BioGraffs changes the structure of the conversation to focus on one person at a time You can take a picture of the BioGraff you made to return to the conversation later Every BioGraff becomes a springboard for more conversation on the a topic YOU choose

The BioGraff method is a good fit for couples who: ✔ want to be proactive around communication, problem areas, and intimacy. ✔ want to move forward but find it hard to make time and space in their busy lives to talk. ✔ have very different communication styles, but are committed to understanding each other. Coaching with Jen and the BioGraffs method is not a good fit for: ✗ couples with years of built-up hurts, disconnection, and resentments. ✗ couples where only one partner wants to do this ✗ relationships involving significant breaches of trust, addiction, abuse, or relational trauma

You and your partner will use your BioGraffs set under the guidance of Jen over zoom. Jen will help you talk about the BioGraffs you made and share them with each other. You'll learn how the active listening that BioGraffs encourages and helps you to practice, can translate into better skills when you are not using BioGraffs. Jen will listen and understand the issues that you are working through or struggling with, and offer tailor-made prompts for you to use with your kit, both in session and later, at your own pace.

BioGraffs is a coaching program and a method. It is not psychotherapy and is not intended to treat any mental health or mental condition. I am not a licensed therapist, and the coaching I provide is not a substitute for couples therapy. The BioGraffs method is designed to guide you through a communication process, but its success depends on your commitment to actively engage and apply the tools provided. While I will help you navigate the method and provide support, the responsibility to do the work lies with you and your partner. Like any relationship tool, results will vary from couple to couple, and no specific outcomes are guaranteed. After our sessions together, you will be set up to continue to use the BioGraffs method for continued growth in your communication with each other.

Yes! BioGraffs is very effective in a clinical setting either with couples, family, or with individuals. If you are a therapists, get a kit for your therapy toolbox. If you are a client, suggest it to your therapist, or bring them a BioGraff you made and talk about it in session. BioGraffs is a totally unique tool for your therapeutic toolbox, whatever the modality. ​ To help clients who are caught up in their own stories To help people get distance from their story (externalize) To help people talk about hard topics, with you or with a partner To help clients share their experience with you To gain clarity on confusing issues For clients who feel stuck For clients when you are feeling stuck For couples to understand each other better For families that need help hearing each other ​ The BioGraffs method is for any clinician looking for ways to expand their repertoire of approaches, and interested in exploring narrative and storytelling techniques. Externalizing internal narratives affords an opportunity for people to create distance from events and become the protagonist of their own choosing in the stories of their lives. Read more here

Absolutely! That's the whole point. The BioGraffs kit is designed to be used regularly. The more you use it, the more you will learn to say through this method. After our sessions, you’ll have the knowledge and tools to continue using the method for regular check-ins, date nights, or when difficult topics arise. It’s a method you can come back to again and again, even when you just want to have fun being creative and talking.

You can cancel your session up to 24 hours in advance, and either re-book or request a refund of a pro rata amount. The cost of the BioGraffs Mag Plus is $110 and is not refundable.

You can book your first session directly through the "Book Now" button on my website. Once you purchase a package, you’ll be able to schedule all three sessions at times that work for you.

Yes, all coaching sessions are completely confidential. I take your privacy very seriously and provide a safe, non-judgmental space for you and your partner to explore your communication challenges.

I developed this method as a way to help people talk about difficult topic. It started actually as an interactive art installation where I invited people to make BioGraffs of their preferred sexual flow. It was meant to get people talking about something that many people find difficult to talk about. People made BioGraffs and shared them with their partner as a fun and non-threatening way to say, "hey, let's talk about sex and what I like." It proved immensely successful. I soon realize that everything that made this a great way to talk about sex, also made it a great way to talk about almost anything that might be a little hard to talk about. I've been doing workshops and individual sessions with people using this method for several years. I've also shared it with many couples and sex therapists who are using it with their own clients to talk about sex and other relationship topics.

BioGraffs is based on my perspective as a documentary editor. I've spent 30 years developing an understanding of storytelling, and the different ways stories can unfold based on different perspectives in a documentary. I believe the process of editing a movie is a powerful metaphor for the internal storytelling that the human brain uses to make sense of the world. As an editor, I take footage from a film shoot and shape it into a good and compelling story, similar to how people take the raw “footage” of their lives and they shape it into the story of their identity, who they are and what they think is going on in their world. We're all making all these little stories in our heads... creating them all the time. Sometimes they're good stories, and sometimes they aren’t, but still they keep streaming over and over on an internal loop. BioGraffs is a way to help look at your internal stories as an audience instead of a director. You see them outside yourself. You might also choose to re-edit your internal stories using the same "footage" but a new perspective. Then you can share your story in a focused way, for better connections with others. ​ This idea has been brewing slowly over the course of my editing career. Talking about Sex ​ In 2016 I started a monthly women's discussion group because I was interested in helping women share their stories about their relationships and their sexual experiences. I invented an activity for that group using cubes to stand for sexual values. It was so successful in my discussion group that I turned it into an interactive art installation called the Graphic Sex Project to help people tell their sexual stories, de-shame talking about sex, and open up new conversations about preferences. At multiple events across the country, I asked people to make a "graph" of a good sexual experience using colored cubes. The installations were a huge success. People could make a graph, or just browse the collection of graphs other people had made at previous installations. It was a featured event around the DC areas, as well as at several Sex Weeks events at Universities across the country. ​ What I discovered doing these installations was that this quirky way of looking at sexuality was a uniquely powerful way for a person to get a new perspective on their desires, and the graphs they created were a great conversation opener with a partner, sparking deep discussion on a typically difficult topic. ​ BioGraffs is Born ​ I soon realized that this was actually a very helpful way to think about any difficult topic. That couples could benefit from using this tool to open up tricky conversations, or just have a fun night of in-depth discussion of personal topics. I realized that the BioGraffs method creates the a structure that encourages active listening and the space for couples to really hear each other, expound on their perspective, and communicate better. I also saw how it could be a useful tool for therapists to share with their clients. I sought input from psychotherapists and counselors on how to make this tool work for people in clinical settings. ​ In 2022, I teamed up with ACT therapist Joey Salvatore and Dr. Miranda Morris, a psychologist, and together we are working to make this valuable tool more widely available to people, including through therapists, counselors, coaches, and educators.